Modern indian women are not marrige material

nowadays many indian women are simply not suitable for marriage 

the current state of marriage is indeed worrying 

the marriage rate is declining year by year 

while the divorce rate is on the rise 

many people may wonder who is to blame for this 

in my opinion the key 

issue may lie more with women nowadays 

some women's behavior is incomprehensible 

they completely lack the demeanor of traditional ladies 

even their parents can hardly recognize them 

let alone becoming virtuous wives and good mothers as a woman 

i should be speaking from a woman's perspective 

but what i see some women doing is truly unacceptable 

why have they become like this 

is it because society has developed too fast 

or is it because the gender ratio in China 

is imbalanced leading to the only child 

being spoiled and pampered 

since childhood 

causing them to act 

recklessly their arrogance has become their capital 

or is it that 

these women's minds have already been corroded by ugly ideas 

it is really something that one finds hard to accept 

and understand in the past 

men guarded the nation 

while women safeguarded the bloodline 

but now some women only care about money and material things 

completely lacking the sense of family 

heritage are such people really suitable for marriage 

one can't help 

but wonder firstly 

some women have no education 

no job 

and look quite ordinary yet they think highly of themselves 

and make a bunch of demands on men 

such as a high bride price buying a house 

buying a car etcetera these demands can be somewhat understood 

but the most outrageous part is that they refuse to do laundry 

cook do housework 

have children or take care of their elderly parents and husbands 

they rely on others to serve them in 

everything they don't want to do anything themselves 

yet they expect others to serve them 

always putting on the heirs of a young lady 

they think about how much pocket money 

their man gives them every day 

if the man gives them less money 

they scold him for being incompetent 

this makes many men feel 

as if they have married an ancestor into their home secondly 

many women are brainwashed by feel good platitudes for example 

they think they should never compromise 

and that women can live well without men 

they believe women are not men's reproductive tools 

and that to have children for a man 

he must be someone who understands and loves them otherwise 

all their suffering is in vain all kinds of superficial self 

help mottos flood their minds plus 

under the influence of various idle dramas 

they daydream all the time 

they fantasize that their future husband 

must be a tall rich and handsome guy 

and that after marriage 

he would be responsible for making money 

while they just need to stay beautiful however 

where in reality are there so many tall rich and handsome men 

the marriages of ordinary people will inevitably differ 

significantly from their fantasies 

as a result 

many women are full of dissatisfaction with their partners 

even though they 

themselves earn only a few thousand yuan a month 

they despise men who earn ten or twenty thousand yuan 

for not meeting their expectations 

and lowering their quality of life 

thirdly many leftover 

women in China 

who are over thirty years old 

clearly had many opportunities to get married 

but they always think that they have some beauty 

a high education and a good job 

they feel that 

ordinary men do not meet their standards 

at all only a tall rich and handsome man 

is their mister right 

after all a man simply cannot fall below their standards 

but in reality 

tall rich and handsome men often prefer young gentle girls 

so why would they choose a woman in her thirties 

fourthly some women have a low salary 

only about three thousand yuan a month 

but they have huge expenditures 

a monthly expense of ten 

thousand yuan is their minimum requirement 

this is because they are accustomed to 

relying on others to provide them 

with what they want 

this lifestyle and consumption concept 

make people feel like they are living the life of a rich lady 

but in reality 

their economic capability does not match up fifthly career women 

although they have achieved success in their work 

also have higher requirements for their partner 

they want to find a man 

who is both wealthy and more successful 

and can earn more than they 

do they believe only such a man is worthy of them 

but in reality 

many successful men often prefer young gentle 

and easygoing women 

rather than a condescending strong woman 

so these behaviors and concepts of certain 

Indian women today indeed 

make them fundamentally unsuitable for marriage 

nowadays many people 

choose to stay single and no longer yearn 

for romantic relationships or marriage 

i think i might be a representative of this 

type of woman born in 1998 

i will be thirty in a few years 

i come from an ordinary family work 

a regular job 

earn a modest 

salary and my education is not outstanding the only things 

i might be able to flaunt 

are probably my looks and height in front of people 

i like i often feel inferior 

everyone says that women 

today are very realistic demanding that men have a house 

a car and savings 

but men also have their own requirements 

they consider a partner's family background 

assess how much the woman can contribute to their future 

and approach with a purpose 

weighing the pros and cons before deciding to leave 

i have also been in a few relationships 

but none ended successfully 

i've seen many couples and married people around me some love 

each other for life 

while others eventually 

part ways rather than experiencing this 

i'd prefer to stay single 

i tend to be a bit of a perfectionist 

if a relationship can not end well 

i'd rather not start it at all i currently live with a roommate 

in a rented apartment 

leading a simple life 

without the trivialities of marriage 

and without a mortgage or car loan my life is free and joyful 

all my time belongs to me 

when i see my friends getting married and having children 

i sometimes feel envious 

but i also occasionally feel relieved 

many people think women like us are selfish and cold 

only concerned with our own feelings 

but i believe that compared to an unhappy marriage 

isn't a solitary single life also beneficial 

why are so many women resisting marriage now 

it's not just a gender issue 

but a predicament 

i really don't want to attend weddings 

they make me feel very uneasy 

for example when the groom's father hands 

the bride's hand to the groom 

this process looks like a secondary transfer of maritalrights 

when the bride price is agreed upon 

it feels like a transaction money exchanged for the goods 

what's even more 

infuriating is that many men in india 

cunningly use the guise of love to emotionally blackmail 

you demanding your sacrifice without any reciprocation 

if you become pregnant 

it's like receiving a non returnable package 

you have to face all the consequences 

so why is marriage seen as the greatest scam in a woman's life 

when a man complains that you're too rational 

the underlying message is that you're hard to deceive or placate 

women no longer accept the injustices 

they once tolerated now 

that women have opened their eyes to the world 

we realize that the men before 

us are not all 

that impressive men will bow and scrape in front of clients 

but act tough in front of women 

their external dignity can only be compensated through you 

and the children although 

surrogacy is wrong the market 

price for it is around one million yuan 

yet many men struggle to offer three hundred thousand yuan 

in bride price for marriage 

which is necessary to support a family 

the in laws and husbands might 

even feel that they are at a loss 

when you sacrifice your career and social life 

to become a full time housewife 

the man's past promise of i will support you turns into i 

support you after much contemplation 

i finally realize that the best way to break 

this situation is to not participate in it at all 

China's marriage rate is gradually declining 

while the divorce rate is rising 

this reflects 

Indian women's dissatisfaction with the traditional marriage 

model women are not unwilling to marry rather 

they resist the traditional form of marriage 

this resistance is actually 

a rebellion against the various injustices 

present in traditional marriages for a long time 

men have often focused only on visible costs 

such as purchasing cars and houses 

while neglecting the hidden costs 

borne by women 

after marriage in first tier and second tier cities 

the monthly salary for a living nanny is around and the monthly salary for a maternity nurse 

these costs do not include the high expenses 

incurred during childbirth however 

women in the family 

are often expected to undertake these duties as a matter 

of course even being viewed as obligatory labor therefore i 

believe that Chinese women are currently not rejecting marriage 

and childbirth 

but rather resisting the injustices 

within the traditional marriage model to change this situation 

men must completely reexamine their understanding of marriage 

they need to recognize that marriage is not just a legal union 

it requires management 

emotional commitment 

and shared responsibility for household chores and childcare 

managing a family requires 

wisdom and a sense of responsibility 

if men cannot make these changes 

the number of men living alone in old age 

will continue to increase 

if women choose not to marry 

but still want children 

they can opt for non marital childbirth however 

men cannot bear children therefore 

i believe that 

a man's inability to give birth is a physiological defect 

nowadays 

many women are unwilling to get married truly outstanding 

men also don't want to get married 

after all the cost of marriage for men is right there 

they need to prepare a house a car 

and also pay the maintance price even if we don't mention too much 

right women worry that after getting married 

and having children 

their husbands won't care about them 

while men are concerned that after giving the bride price 

they will be deceived by the woman now 

good men can't meet good women 

and good women can't meet good men 

men are afraid of meeting gold diggers 

while women are afraid of encountering 

scumbags the trust in the entire society 

has almost vanished between people there is nothing 

but calculation the marriage hasn't even happened yet 

and during the dating phase 

people are already calculating fearing 

that they will suffer losses 

this is premarital 

that is also premarital 

this property is mine that property is also mine 

everything must be clearly divided 

why is there no happiness in marriage nowadays 

it's because both 

parties aren't thinking about how to live a good life together 

but rather worrying about their own property 

being occupied by the other now men provide property 

while women give their bodies 

why can't low income men find wives 

because their income does not match the sacrifices 

women make in having children after all 

women stay at home to take care of the child after giving birth 

which means no income and life becomes difficult to maintain 

therefore 

they all want to find men with good conditions and high income 

which is understandable as a result 

it becomes even harder for low income men to find partners 

nowadays no one wants to find someone who holds them back 

everyone wants to rely on the other to live a better life 

both men and women want to find someone better than themselves 

after all who doesn't want to live better therefore 

it is now difficult for many Chinese men 

and women to step into marriage 

the reason 

i finally figured out why the marriage rate is so low nowadays 

is mainly because most people who don't want to 

get married are women 

look at my parents generation 

my dad was responsible for earning money to support the family 

while my mom took care of me 

and managed the household their generation 

followed a division of labor between men and women however 

in our generation 

women not only have to take care of the family 

children and inlaws 

but also need to have a job to achieve economic independence 

if they ask for just a little bit more 

they will be criticized as being greedy 

isn't societies demand on women too harsh nowadays secondly 

many of the women around me 

had a pretty high quality of life before marriage 

but after marriage 

their quality of life didn't improve instead 

they took on more responsibilities 

like caring for their partner both sets of parents and children 

they must give their best effort in every aspect 

and if anything goes wrong 

they face complaints to put it bluntly 

which woman with the ability to be self sufficient 

would easily choose to get married 

thirdly just take a look at those divorced female 

after their divorce 

none of them seem willing to remarry before marriage 

they thought living alone was tough 

but after marriage 

they realized 

it's not just tough 

it's a form of suffering 

if all you want is love and companionship dating is enough 

why do you have to get married in the past 

people said that women valued cars and houses 

calling them materialistic 

but now women don't want 

anything so naturally 

they don't need a husband anymore 

i really don't understand why i have to get married 

once i get married 

i'll immediately become poor regarding marriage 

i'm pretty much the same as most people born in the nineties 

i don't want to get married 

don't want to bear the burden of life 

and don't want to buy a house or a car right now 

i just want to live 

a simple and free life 

if i have hundreds of thousands of you on to live on my own 

i think that would be enough to make me happy so why get married 

sure finding someone could reduce loneliness 

and allow us to strive together 

but if i can't find a girlfriend 

who can actually improve my life 

what's the point of getting married 

besides 

i feel that many women nowadays are not suitable for marriage 

look if i earn twenty thousand rupees a month 

and she only earns two thousand yuan 

then i have to take care of her plus 

most women nowadays don't know how to do housework 

i will have to take on the responsibility of doing housework 

i also have to support her always be mindful of her feelings 

nowadays marriage often starts not with love 

but with various material conditions 

i believe there are indeed 

some girls who choose to be with you for love 

even without a house 

but their families definitely won't agree so now 

when looking for a partner 

if its not goal oriented from the beginning 

then no matter how well you get along initially 

or how deep the feelings are you might still end up 

not being together in the end 

in the future 

if there are many leftover women 

who find it difficult to find a partner 

the reason often lies in their own behavior 

i now finally understand why 

when it comes to discussing marriage 

and finding a partner 

there is always a sense of rejection between men 

and women in China 

with neither side finding the other attractive 

i have summarized the current situation of some women in China 

have you noticed that some 

women whose family conditions are average 

and whose jobs are not outstanding 

merely able to make ends meet often harbor fantastical dreams 

filled with ideals and romance 

while being quite confident 

so what is there for others to like about you 

is it that you don't do housework 

or is it your monthly salary of 3 

500 yuan some of you sisters 

please stop being obsessed with idle dramas 

the plot of a domineering 

president falling in love 

with a sweet innocent girl 

is something that will never happen in real life 

we all want to find a partner with good conditions 

which is not wrong in itself 

but we also need to reflect on improving ourselves first 

after all marriage is essentially a value exchange 

whether it is economic value 

emotional value 

or other outstanding qualities 

you possess it is what makes the other party 

think you are worth it 

if we can lower some of our requirements for a partner 

we would find that there are actually 

many excellent men around us 

as for those men who truly earn seven figures a year 

they are mostly older men and most of them already have wives 

these wives have been with the older men 

since their youth supporting them 

through entrepreneurship and hard work in marriage 

there 

really aren't many opportunities to gain something for nothing 

do you agree 

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